These Bridesmaids Live to Destroy Your Happiness  by G. Finley

Key Lesson: All acts of impatience serve to secretly deflect the one critical revelation that as long as we meet life with any unseen demand, we can't help but be painfully remanded into the hands of one of these two self-punishing states: anger or frustration. They are the bridesmaids of any desire thwarted.

Free Yourself of Undetected Pressure

Commanding the pressures of this life begins with understanding that the stress we feel is first an inside job. In & of itself, there is no such thing as a "pressurized" moment. Try to see the truth of this.

The present moment flows along freely. Nothing can possibly restrict what is ever refreshing itself in the ever-new Now. This finding reveals that any pressure we come to feel in any given moment is the unhappy effect of some hidden agent within us acting on the ordinarily free-flowing content of each of these moments. In no time at all, the quiet & naturally unrestricted stream of events around us becomes a jet engine within us, rocketing us out of peace.

It is our own narrow mind, with its narrow view of life that pressurizes our events and their moments. This small mind, which can't be separated from the narrow world it perceives, tends to see life's events not as they are, but as what they are not according to its own unconscious demands.

In other words, the punishing pressure we feel in this life is not because of what life is but because of what we perceive life isn't -- a judgment that could neither be reached nor sustained were it not for there being within us an unseen "board of governors" that had already concluded what "best" serves us and what won't. But see the contradiction in this discovery and you will free yourself of the pressure created in its undetected presence.

Whenever you "serve" this painful pressure within you, to somehow release yourself from it by doing the dance it prescribes, it is not your interests you serve, but the hidden interests of some small self -- the one that has been "telling" you all along what your real pleasures are by punishing you when they seem out of reach!

The next time some pressure starts to build within you, learn to use it to shake yourself awake. Rouse yourself to the pure fact that whatever stress you are starting to feel doesn't really belong to you. Stand back from yourself long enough to see that pressurized thoughts and feelings can only arise from a narrow view of life that belongs to a narrow self -- a false self that you had momentarily and mistakenly taken as your own. Then just quietly drop this formerly unconscious conclusion. This same moment of letting go releases you from this restricted sense of self and the narrow life it creates.

God Does Not Have To Prove himself To Us, We Have To Prove Ourselves To God.
If You Ask For Proof, You Will Not Get It. But If You Don’t Ask For It.
And You Have Faith, Then You Will Get Proof.
God Does Not Punish You, Your Own Subconscious Mind Does. 
You Can Fool Fellow Men, You Can Fool Yourself,But You Can Never Fool God Almighty.
A Simple, Honest, Kind, Selfless Deed Is More Important Than Hours Of Prayers Without.

Concentration, And Giving Thousands In Charity To Fool People And Our God Almighty.

The Biggest Problem Today Is That Human Beings Are Always Looking for a Scientific Explanation or Proof of God’s Existence. 

The Subconscious Mind Is Infinite. 

But Science Is Born Out Of Human Intelligence, Which Is Limited. 

The Intellect That Humans Possess Is Incapable Of Understanding God.

GOD DOES NOT HAVE TO PROVE HIMSELF TO US. WE HAVE TO PROVE OURSELVES TO GOD
 

That Is Why We Are On EARTH…!!!

Beyond Reacting - Remembering to Pause

Remembering to pause & take a breath before we react can shift the energy of the outcome.
We have all had the experience of reacting in a way that was less than ideal upon hearing bad news, or being unfairly criticized, or being told something we did not want to hear. This makes sense because when our emotions are triggered, they tend to take center stage, inhibiting our ability to pause before we speak. We may feel compelled to release the tension by expressing ourselves in some way, whether it’s yelling back at the person yelling at us, or rushing to deliver words of comfort to a friend in trouble. However, there is much to be said for teaching ourselves to remember to pause & take a deep breath before we respond to the shocks & insults that can come our way in life.

For one thing, our initial response is not always what’s best for us, or for the other people involved. Reacting to childish rage with childish rage will only escalate the negativity in a situation, further ensnaring us in an undesirable dynamic. Similarly, when we react defensively, or simply thoughtlessly, we often end up feeling regret over our words or actions. In the end, we save ourselves a lot of pain when we take a deep breath & really tune in to ourselves & the other person, before we respond. This doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t say anything, although in some cases, that may be the best option.

Some situations require a fairly immediate response, but even just a moment of grounding ourselves before we do so can help enormously. The next time you find yourself wanting to react, try to pause & in that pause, take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the floor, the air on your skin & listen for a response to arise within you, rather than just going with the first thing that pops into your head. You may find that in that moment, there is the potential to move beyond reaction & into the more subtle & creative realm of response, where something new can happen.

Create a Supportive Life Story -  Empowered Storytelling

We all have a story to tell, but sometimes we get stuck in that story & become our story.
 
We all have our own life story. It is filled with relationships & events that help shape who we are & what we believe to be true about the world. Depending on our perspective & willingness to grow, our experiences can become fodder for negativity & patterns of playing the victim, or they can fuel a life of empowerment & continued self-development. It is the story we tell ourselves about what happens that makes all the difference.

Take a moment to look at the life story you create for yourself on an ongoing basis. If you generally feel peaceful about the past & trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way, then you are framing circumstances in a manner that serves you well. On the other hand, if you retain a lot of guilt or resentment & often feel weighed down by life, you may want to start telling yourself a new version of past & present events. No matter who the characters are in your story or what they have done, you are the only one who can give their actions the meaning they will have for you. You are the only one who can define what role you will play in your own life. By taking responsibility for your story, you are able to learn & grow, forgive & find compassion, & most importantly, move on into a brighter future.

From now on, you can choose a life story that supports you. Let it be proof of your own resilience & creativity. Be kind with the roles you give yourself & generous with how many chances you get to learn what you need to know. When you remember that you are the author of your own story, you are free to create a masterpiece.

A Carpenter, returning home with his month’s wages, was stopped by an armed robber on a deserted street.

“Take my money,” said the carpenter, “but do me a favour: “Shoot a bullet through my hat otherwise my wife won’t believe I was robbed.”

The robber obliged. He threw the hat into the air and put a bullet through it.
“Let’s make it look as if I ran into a gang of robbers, “otherwise my wife will call me a coward! Please shoot a number of holes through my coat.”
So the robber shot a number of holes through the carpenter’s coat. “And now…” continued the carpenter....
“Sorry,” interrupted the robber. “No more holes. I’m out of bullets.”
“That’s all I wanted to know. He caught the thief and bashed him black and blue. “Now hand me back my money and some more for the hat and coat that you’ve ruined or I’ll beat you again!”The robber threw down the money and ran.

Moral:   It's never too late to use our brains to get out of a difficult situation!!

What Goes Around Comes Around !

Fleming was a poor Scottish farmer !

·         He heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog, he ran to the bog. There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death.

·         The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.

·         "I want to repay you," said the nobleman. "You saved my son's life."

·         "No, I can't accept payment for what I did," the Scottish farmer replied, waving off the offer.

·         At that moment, the farmer's own son came to the door of the family hovel. "Is that your son?" the nobleman asked.

·         "Yes," the farmer replied proudly.

·         "I'll make you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of education my own son will enjoy. If the lad is anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of." And that he did.

·         Farmer Fleming's son attended the very best schools and in time, he graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.

·         Years afterward, the same nobleman's son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia. What saved his life this time? Penicillin ! !

·         The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. His son's name? Sir Winston Churchill.

Someone once said: "What goes around comes around."